Monday, 30 December 2013

A Birthday gal.


My family knows me well - Brent brought me a tui feeder.


 a tui is one of NZ natives birds. This photo is from a blog I enjoy Ordinary Goodness - I hope you don't mind me stealing this photo. (PS I still can't work out how to comment on your blog)


I can hardly wait until I can get a photo like above - photo is taken from The NZ Back Yard Bird feeders website. 

Can you imagine such a sight in winter? Knowing the birds have full tummies.
Photo also from The NZ Back Yard web site where Brent got the tui feeder from.

 It's placed on one of the bean frames so I can have a view from computer and kitchen sink. PLUS the cats will also get a full view. I can hardly wait until a tui comes and visits the feeder.

I'm terribly worried about James giving me a really good trowel, I'm well known for misplacing mine. I sneak snippets of time in the garden so pick up and never put back a garden trowel.. Might have to be a new habit I form. Abbey hoped I wouldn't be offended with her gift as I often plant seeds and then forget where or what I have planted plus never sow in straight lines - oh my to be an organised gardener. Totally love my gifts.

Movie..



Abbey and I went off to see the movie Philomena, Abbey was a bit worried that it might not be a good day to go and see such a film on my birthday since I was one of the many unwanted babies in the world and adopted out.
 Three months after I was born my natural mother got pregnant again with a different man. She adopted out her son a year later. His birthday is a day before mine. so I was thinking of him too, his story is sadder as our mother married his father and had three more children.


The movie was excellent based on a true story and the book  The Lost Child of Philomena Lee: A Mother, Her Son and A Fifty-Year Search by Martin Sixsmith


Judi Dench HAS to get an Oscar for her role. Without giving too much away to spoil the movie, the nuns are portrayed as evil. It was a time when families shunned unwed pregnant girls and sent them off away from home to have their babies and often the event was never again to be spoken of. 

The families disappointment in the girls and the loss of family pride was often unable to be altered. Resulting in the girls having to carry the guilt and shame and never speaking of the adoption for most of their life. Often never receiving any counseling or unconditional love from their families - the poor girls.

As an adoptee I feel very passionate that it is my right to know by genetic roots. Imagine not knowing your medical history or who you look like all your life.

I searched for my mother when I was 19 years old and it was a time when the NZ Adoption records were closed so was a very hard process. Even today I have limited access to my file with much of the records blanked out. I am pleased I searched and know my roots. My story isn't one of the happy ones and  will make a very scandalous tv drama - sometimes life story's are more unbelievable than fiction.

 I thank my natural mother for not having an abortion - imagine no me.

SPOILER alerts...
After watching the movie I did some research and below are a few links giving a truer collection of events than the movie did.




39 comments:

  1. Happy Birthday Leanne!!! You are going to drive those poor cats crazy watching the birds feed from confinement...lol... lucky birds....

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    1. SMILE it helps the cats take their mind off being homesick. They sit and chirp chirp at the birds. Fantails are very daring and dive into the cattery cages - only one has ever been caught. Love Leanne

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  2. i love that twine. i need to find some as i am out! i really want to see that movie too. i can't imagine the world if you were aborted! i thank your mom too!

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    1. Let me know what you think of the movie. The book My Notorious Life puts a different view point on options. One has to do what feels right for each person.and situation. Deep stuff SMILE love Leanne

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  3. Happy, Happy birthday, super gifts, and I have read, if you are going to see " Philomena" don't look at the trailer first. One definite... to do... this year, or next depending on where it is. Judi Dench is one superb actress, and even with age, she seems to be better in every film. Lovely feeder, I wonder if any other birds will visit too. Have a great day Leanne. Greetings and all Good Wishes, Jean.

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    1. Isn't Judi fab - she's 78 I think? - I sure hope the bellbirds come play at the feeder - wouldn't that be something.

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  4. Happy Birthday tooo yoouuu Leanne :-) I think the tui feeder is just an absolute perfect gift for you ... it will be wonderful to enjoy watching the birds feed all year round ... sounds like you have set it up in the perfect place too. I laughed at your comment about losing your trowel, I do that also & read to tie a yellow ribbon around it that you will be able to see from a distance. But of course, yellow ribbons dont STAY yellow for long when you are doing dirty gardening work!!! So that didnt quite work either.
    Thanks for sharing the story about the movie - I look forward to watching it ... my good friend searched for her adoptive Mum only to find she had passed away just a couple of months prior & hers was a scandalous drama too as her Mum was a housekeeper for her wealthy father !!!!

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    1. Day 1 I grabbed a snippet of time in garden before owners came to collect their cats and GASP left my trowel outside and then it rained...BUT I remembered and collected it PHEW. Hope you enjoy the movie - take some tissues there wasn't a dry eye in the theatre. Love L

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  5. I assume your birthday is the 30th and if so - snap - I am 70 years young today. I have a similar bird feeder (or rather two) that Doug made me and had lots of Tuis and white eyes using them over the winter. Got a fishing rod for my birthday. Have a happy day. Must go and see the film.

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    1. Oh a VERY happy birthday to you! And it's one of the special o's for you (mine next year GASP)
      Happy fishing!!!
      Love Leanne

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    2. Thank you, I have had a wonderful day and am sure you would have as well.

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  6. Happy birthday! I'm glad you are in the world too. Enjoy your gifts and even more enjoy your family. You have a precious one. Xxxx

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    1. Thanks Angela - we have broken the cycles and I have a wonderful family.So wish everyone in the world could have families that love unconditionally - as my good friend John Lennon says IMAGINE. Love Leanne

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  7. Happy Birthday!!! I'm very happy to share my photo with you. I am pleased you bought a large feeder. I got the smaller size and at times the birds empty it twice a day. I may need another feeder before winter. The feeder is the BEST $40 I have spent all year. I never tire of watching the Tuis and the wax eyes. I can recognise some of the regular Tui callers now and it has been very exciting to see the juveniles come.

    The wax eyes don't call at the moment and I live in hope of Bellbirds feeding too.....

    Once the first Tui finds the feeder the word is spread quickly...by Twitter maybe...Lol...corny joke. I put red colouring in the sugar water and cut oranges near it so that their eye would be caught when it was first put up on the fence. It took a day or two to attract the first one.
    We have been surprised at how "tame" the Tui become as they call when we are reasonably close by in the garden and the kitchen.

    Do post when you spot your first Tui!!!! Enjoy!

    I'll have a look at the Comments bit on my WP blog and see if I can help you with that.

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    1. Thanks!! I've put out some oranges and put orange food colouring in water (that's all I had - nasty stuff that food colouring is) Do you know if I can use honey instead of sugar to feed the tui's. I feel bad giving them sugar
      I'm soo looking forward to the birds using it. Love L

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    2. They will find it. I used some red food colouring that I had from about 25 years ago to put in play dough!! I did wonder about splashing some water from cooking beetroot or a little beetroot juice as a safer alternative but the Tui discovered the feeder before I got to try that. It is the colour that attracts their eye.

      I have wondered about honey being better for them than sugar. Perhaps the people who make the feeders could advise on that.

      I remember watching and waiting and hoping......we have never had more than two birds at the feeder but our one is located very near the street and the neighbour's drive. We are much more suburban than your lovely spot. The other thing is that their food sources are abundant at the moment whereas we set up our feeder in late winter. It is exciting.....

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    3. Thanks - I'm waiting for the first visit any day soon. I can't comment on your blog as it doesn't allow blogger. Thanks for heads up on Tui book it is reserved at library. Love L

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  8. Happy birthday my dear Kiwi friend, I wish you a year ahead of happiness and good health. Sending my love.

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    1. Thank you Rose - I just walked past computer and it "dingged" saying "you have mail". Abbey said it's 2014 next year - yeeeees I said. 7 years of being unwell.GASP Some do say every single cell in our skeleton is replaced every 7 years.. As my good friend Rudolph Steiner the great teacher of Anthroposophy said that the seven-year cycles continue throughout life. Lets hope as health just can't be brought. Hope not too hot over there for you. Love L

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  9. Happy Birthday wishes Leanne!!! I am so glad that you are in the World and to think that Abby & James would not exist without you shows how one person decision can change the future of so many people. I appreciate the small bits we see each post of your well honed intellect, your many talents & sharp wit. I have always admired the courage it tales to take the journey of trying to discover your roots & who you came from. I'm sure it is more disappointing than no for most.t.It is outrageous that children's' adoptive parents are not mandated to be provided with full disclosure of their families medical history and other important information that child & their adoptive parents should as soon as the adoption takes place and then released to the child at the age of consent. So much work to do for people's rights in the World. Thank you for the links & I will definitely read the book & see the movie when I can. Judi Dench is an amazing actress & I love everything she chooses to act in. It was sweet of Abby to be concerned about you seeing the film.
    You certainly got some wonderful Christmas gifts from the family. The Tuis birdhouse is lovely. It feels so good to be able to make life a bit easier for the birds that give us so much pleasure to watch. You have a great view from your working spot in the house. I have a year round family of hummingbirds who come for nectar many times a day. Now, after many years of getting to know me & the cats, they fly under the cover deck & right up to the picture window to say hello to us & see what we are doing. Boy, do they get mad & let me now when the nectar level is too low for their liking. It must be hard on them in the cold Winter and no flowers to keep them occupied,
    When I kept leaving my garden tools out & lost or ruined, I forced myself to carry them all in a basket. Loved the ID sticks Abby gave you. I always think I will remember each flower & plant, but of course I forget. The sticks are such an easy solution. & a good habit to start.

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    1. My mum felt the same they were told nothing of my background and she always worried I might of ended up marrying a half brother/cousin or something. What irks me is the files are still very restricted you get a bit of paper that someone has gone over with a black ink through out the document.
      I'd love to see some humming birds one day and squirrels eating nuts sideways SMILE.
      I'd forget where I left my basket too... our dd brought me a new garden mat for xmas that says time for a cuppa tea as I often ask them to put the jug on when I'm in the garden SMILE. Love L

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  10. Happy Birthday Dear Leanne.
    That looks like my sort of movie.I am also awaiting the one of The book Thief.

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    1. Thank you! Abbey and I are looking forward to seeing Book Thief the trailer looks like they have cast the characters pretty spot on. We have a lovely boutique movie theatre http://www.shorelinecinema.co.nz/ that we go off to during the daytime - rather decadent.. Love L

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  11. The very Happiest of Birthdays!!!!!! I am very glad you are in this world too. Parents make tons of mistakes, but the best thing they have ever done is give us life. :) You are an inspiration! Love, Kit

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    1. Thanks Kit. As the very wise Louise Hay says Our parents (and Us as parents) were doing the best they could with what they had been taught as children. If you want to understand your parents more, get them to talk about their own childhood; and if you listen with compassion, you will learn where their fears and rigid patterns come from. Hope you are keeping warm over there. Love Leanne

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  12. happy birthday to you, happy birthday to you!! What wonderful presents, so practical! I agree those cats are going to feel teased!
    Have a happy evening. I like the look of the movie, I am a Judi Dench fan.

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    1. Thanks Leeane, Hope you get to see the movie - and I sure hope Judi wins an Oscar for her performance.
      Love L

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  13. Wishing you a very Happy Birthday today Leanne!! I too am very glad that you exist in this world. My middle daughter was born 37 years ago today and I see a lot of similarities between you :)
    Cheers, Karen near Gympie.

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    1. Thanks Karen, us Capricorn's are very practical earth loving folk. Say happy birthday to your dd. Love L

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  14. Happy Birthday Leanne - I hope your day was really happy!! Great - and very thoughtful - pressies.... I cant wait to see your photos of the Tui at the feeder!!

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    1. Thanks Raewyn - I'm driving myself nuts looking each time I see a tui to see if they have found it yet.
      Love L

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  15. Happy happy Birthday Leanne - I'm glad you are in the world, too! Big {{hugs}} and thoughts of you and your brother. Nice gifts..love the tui feeder..like you, I'm a practical girl and love to receive something I can use!

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    1. Thanks Julie - yea I'd rather have gadgets over bling

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  16. Happy Birthday dear Leanne! Sounds like you've had a lovely day. Lots of love. xx

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    1. Thanks Rachel - I keep meaning to tell you I'm listening to Vera https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/1294375.Vera - reminds me of Rebecca by Daphne du Maurier (im only up to about chapter 11 so far)

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  17. Happy birthday Lovely girl XXXXXX

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    1. Thank you! Hope you are keeping warm over there. Love L

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  18. Happy Birthday! What pretty birds, you have such unusual and beautiful flowers, birds and plants there. It must be wonderful to live where you do.

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    1. Oh I think New Zealand is the bestest place in the whole wide world. - we do have beautiful native plants and birds. Brent has planted many natives and the native birds hang out at our place. Just bliss.
      Love Leanne

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